Ah parenting. And guilt.
I’m not really a guilt-ridden type of broad. But now that I am a parent, it is a constant choice every day to avoid the guilt.
One thing I learned quickly after Mr. Pickle Pumpkin was born – before he was born actually! – is that every choice you make for your child can be judged. By someone. And it usually is. To have fetal genetic testing or not? To circumcise or not? To breast-feed exclusively, or not? Cloth diapers, disposable, or some sort of hybrid? Co-sleep or not? Whatever choice you make as a parent someone you know has made a different choice and won’t hesitate to tell you, kindly, with a concerned look on their face, why their choice is just a little bit better.
It can make you crazy.
So I tell all new mothers to give up the guilt. There are a million different ways to parent, there are a million decisions to make every day. Do your very best, don’t worry too much, and realize that some kids with all organic toys will grow up to be psychopaths, some will grow up to be world leaders most will grow up somewhere in-between. Make the choices that work for you.
Guilt be gone!
An upcoming post will deal with the other side of this coin – judging!