I am a working mom with two small children. Needless to say, sleep is always short, and my to-do list is always long. I’m still on that never-ending quest for balance. Some days are better than others. Or perhaps I should say that some days are worse than others. Half full, half empty, yadda yadda.
I’ve started to realize that in addition to the to-do lists I keep a) in my gmail account, b) on my iPhone, c) on my desk at work, and d) floating around in my brain, I also have the following sneakier non-to-do to-do lists (whoa, that’s confusing – bet you had to read that twice):
1) My house
The way my schedule works, I don’t get vacations. At all. Ever. It is the trade-off I make for having Wednesdays at home with my doodlebugs. There is an occasional long weekend here and there, but nothing longer, and I’m rarely out of town. I’ve come to realize that, for me, the huge value of vacation is that I can escape the to-do list that is my house. There’s the regular upkeep, of course, but as I walk around, it is hard not to notice all of the things I want to do, and the changes I want to make. Do we still have the same paint jobs in the master bedroom and bath as we did when we moved in 3+ years ago? Yes, yes we do. Are both rooms sponge-painted? Yes, yes they are. Excuse: I have been pregnant or living with teeny people in my house since 12 days after we moved in, so I’ve put up with the paint job by telling myself that too many paint fumes could be/would be dangerous to our health. But beyond the painting, there is stuff to do in every room. And even when I escape the house to-do list I have to walk by my garage door and think, “Geez, that really needs replacing.” The name on our front door knocker? Yeah, not ours.
2) My nightstand
When you remove Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site, Ox-Cart Man and the other 34 children’s books you will see my nightstand to-do list – my to-read pile of books. Has A Farewell to Arms been there for 7 years? Yes, it has. And if you’re doing the math in your head, you’re right – it was on my nightstand in my prior abode and I moved it to this nightstand in my new house 3+ years ago. It might be time to add it to the bookshelf, eh?
3) My DVR
Don’t get me wrong – I love my DVR. We never watch anything the night-of, preferring to wait a night and fast-forward through all of the commercials. But I admit to getting stressed out when I see that “78% full” warning as it goes up and up and up. Excuse: the 43 episodes of “Yo Gabba Gabba” do take up a chunk of space. But really, the “Recordings” list has turned from something I looked forward to seeing, to something that stresses me out. It is simply a list of things I need to find the time to watch. And usually, I’m just too tired.
It may be time for me to figure out a way to get out of town for a while, so my to-do list can look more like this:
- Schedule massage
- Make dinner reservations
What about you? Where are your sneaky to-do lists?